# T15 · Who will do this part?

“You, me, together with wanted help, or no try?”

**Stop first:** Stop the added offer immediately for a known no/stop, discomfort, withdrawal of interest or uncertainty. Keep ordinary care and usual supports available; no repeated signal, clearer reply or restart is owed.

**Setup and free swap:** One currently wanted safe act, such as moving a familiar toy once or contributing a word to a pretend exchange. It must already be suitable, accessible and agreeable for whichever adult acts. “Together” does not mean hand-over-hand guidance.

## Common agreement for every route

Use an awake, comfortable, wanted moment in the child's usual supported setting with a familiar caring adult. Keep the child's body and usual communication/supports as they are. Do not manufacture distress, withhold a comfort item or necessary help, reposition the child, guide their body, demand eye contact, lure reaching/tracking, test hearing, or ask for touch/speech/imitating to make the offer work.

An optional object is **one existing large, intact, familiar, non-powered play item already judged appropriate for this individual child and setting under its actual instructions, age labelling, condition and current recall information**. “Large” alone is no safety clearance. No object is required. No small loose pieces, detachable parts, food, water, tools, tight lids, bags, cords, magnets, batteries, foam, glass, raised ramps, lights, covering faces or surprise reveals are introduced. No child handling of paper; any print stays adult-held away from mouth/reach. Adults maintain normal supervision and unobstructed access. These offers certify no material or setup.

Use known home words, established signs/AAC and family-informed supports. A competent familiar speaker may use their own language; this pack supplies no translation, invented gesture dictionary, cultural story or First Nations language claim. The adult can speak, sign/communicate through established supports, act silently if accessible, or stay quietly available. Quiet does not remove usual communication access.

**Stop rule:** respond to a known no/stop, discomfort, withdrawal of interest or uncertainty by stopping the added offer and returning to ordinary familiar care/play. Never keep testing until a clearer answer appears. No new touch, sound or movement is used to obtain evidence. A restart needs current willingness. Necessary routine transitions remain adult responsibilities, with a familiar explanation; child participation is not required for tidying or ending care.

## If this contribution is wanted

**Play and choice:** Offer the real available operator choices. A child may keep a decision while asking the adult to do all the physical work; help is not withheld. Each person can decline their own contribution. Confirm who is doing which part only if useful; no swap or shared possession is required.

**Three routes:** (1) Child chooses an ordinary comfortable action with wanted support available. (2) Child clearly directs a willing adult's action and can change it before execution. (3) No object: choose who contributes one story event through familiar communication, or leave it unmade.

**Notice/next/stop:** Child decision, actual child action and actual adult help stay separate. “Together” alone supplies no evidence of what either did. Next time offer the operator/support that was wanted now, with fresh willingness. Either person's no ends that contribution, without ending the child's separate play.

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