“We can change what I was going to do.”
Stop first: Stop the added offer immediately for a known no/stop, discomfort, withdrawal of interest or uncertainty. Keep ordinary care and usual supports available; no repeated signal, clearer reply or restart is owed.
Setup and free swap: An actual small adult contribution has been agreed through known communication but not yet performed. Keep all necessary care/help available. Object version might be an agreed adult toy movement; no-object version an agreed short story contribution. No deliberate delay to provoke a response.
Common agreement for every route
Use an awake, comfortable, wanted moment in the child's usual supported setting with a familiar caring adult. Keep the child's body and usual communication/supports as they are. Do not manufacture distress, withhold a comfort item or necessary help, reposition the child, guide their body, demand eye contact, lure reaching/tracking, test hearing, or ask for touch/speech/imitating to make the offer work.
An optional object is one existing large, intact, familiar, non-powered play item already judged appropriate for this individual child and setting under its actual instructions, age labelling, condition and current recall information. “Large” alone is no safety clearance. No object is required. No small loose pieces, detachable parts, food, water, tools, tight lids, bags, cords, magnets, batteries, foam, glass, raised ramps, lights, covering faces or surprise reveals are introduced. No child handling of paper; any print stays adult-held away from mouth/reach. Adults maintain normal supervision and unobstructed access. These offers certify no material or setup.
Use known home words, established signs/AAC and family-informed supports. A competent familiar speaker may use their own language; this pack supplies no translation, invented gesture dictionary, cultural story or First Nations language claim. The adult can speak, sign/communicate through established supports, act silently if accessible, or stay quietly available. Quiet does not remove usual communication access.
Stop rule: respond to a known no/stop, discomfort, withdrawal of interest or uncertainty by stopping the added offer and returning to ordinary familiar care/play. Never keep testing until a clearer answer appears. No new touch, sound or movement is used to obtain evidence. A restart needs current willingness. Necessary routine transitions remain adult responsibilities, with a familiar explanation; child participation is not required for tidying or ending care.
If this contribution is wanted
Offer and child control: If a clear different message arrives before the act, respond to the current message: cancel, change or end. If unclear, pause rather than following the earlier plan as automatic permission. A plan can disappear without an actual event.
Three usable routes: (1) Cancel an unperformed adult item action and leave normal play intact. (2) Change an unspoken story contribution to the clearly directed one, or leave it untold. (3) With no new object/act, respect a current transition away from the interaction and remain available.
Notice and next: Earlier agreement, present communication and actual execution are separate. No cancelled action is counted as tried or as a child cause/effect demonstration. Later offer the currently wanted idea from a fresh start, with no memory/correction exercise. Stop any added offer for discomfort, uncertainty or a known no.
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